0:14 hello and welcome to another episode of Live Love by design TV
0:21 I’m Karen Chaston and today you are in for another treat I have the most
0:27 beautifulest lady inside and out to actually have a conversation with so
0:33 let’s bring her on her hello Ly how are you hi I’m good how are you
0:40 – so Ly is her last name is Aunapu and she is originally from Estonia but
0:49 she now lives in Australia so Ly tell us how you got to Australia oh so how
0:57 much do we have again so first of all you know I have always been a traveler like even when I lived in
1:04 Estonia I’m from a very small town of 2500 people and I always and it’s a town in
1:09 Estonia right not a village and I always had it I knew that I wanted to travel
1:15 the world that was you know something out there for me and it all started for
1:19 me actually 2009 when I went abroad to study for a semester in Denmark and
1:25 that’s when something really changed in me I was like oh my god like I want to
1:29 travel for the rest of my life and to Australia actually I came about well
1:36 almost three years ago two and a half years ago and you know why I came here
1:41 do you want the official answer or the real answer the real answer is I met a
1:48 guy fell in love with Australia and that is the best reason to do anything because
1:54 as and and you are very much all about you and then our with the live love by
2:00 design pillars all about you all about your relationships all about your
2:05 expertise and all about your wealth creation so I love the fact that we
2:09 started that you always wanted to travel and then through your travels you
2:13 actually met your partner which is so perfect so you’re a transformation coach
2:20 and you mainly love working with women which i think is amazing
2:24 because you’re so young and which is great because I’m sure you have a lot of
2:29 life experience through your travels to share with your with women so it wasn’t
2:36 easy for you to set up your business in Australia so yeah yes and no right I
2:45 think why yes because I mean setting up your business will always be difficult
2:50 and you know it is challenging it’s so much easier to find a job and you know
2:54 just do something by the book but at the same time it was almost like not a
2:58 choice for me it was like this is what I want to do
3:01 and it wasn’t like I sat down and I was thinking that you know I want to start
3:05 my business it’s like one thing led to another and I always say Australia’s
3:10 been so good for me because something really changed I mean of course one
3:15 thing again like I had transformation already before but Australia was like
3:19 the perfect country for me to step out of my comfort zone because I saw how
3:24 many possibilities there are and select that new version of me who came to
3:28 Australia actually I love that and I love the fact that you said there’s so many
3:34 possibilities because I guess a lot of the time when people actually live in
3:39 their hood so to speak they don’t see the possibilities they they don’t come
3:44 in with fresh eyes like you obviously did and I like that what you’re saying
3:48 because it is about fresh eyes so now when I go back home to Estonia I see
3:53 also from a very different perspective like I see like wow it’s
3:56 exciting actually you know once they left I was like ah
3:59 you know there’s something better out there now I don’t think like that anymore
4:03 I really think it’s about you so when we talk about me traveling I always say as
4:09 well that I’m you know a souler traveler so it’s me changing my inner world as well and
4:14 it’s so true because most of the times we don’t see what’s all around us but
4:20 more importantly our perspective if we’re to say for example if we’re more
4:25 negative than positive we’re obviously going to focus on on that more than the
4:30 positives but we we don’t really what’s the right word I’m looking for
4:35 we don’t really see how how beautiful everywhere we live in
4:42 the world can possibly be absolutely absolutely
4:45 ultimately is about how do you feel you know I lived four years in Berlin and I
4:50 remember that I didn’t have very very good feelings I loved the city but it
4:54 wasn’t anything like how I feel in Sydney but it’s not about the city
4:58 itself it’s really like your own experience there you know what are you
5:02 did you feel with Berlin for example and I don’t want to harp on this do you feel
5:07 the energy of past events that have happened in Berlin could actually
5:12 be what you were feeling were you taking on that sort of energy or do you feel it was totally you
5:19 definitely it has a lot of history you know and you can really feel it I think
5:22 in every corner but Berlin is also about the city of freedom you know a
5:26 lot of people come there do just seek for freedom it’s um always talk about
5:31 it that you know it’s um people are not unemployed they’re freelancers so
5:37 because people just think differently well I guess it was more about my own
5:43 personal experience actually I just felt really lost like I didn’t know what I
5:47 actually want from life I didn’t have that kind of certainty that I have right
5:51 now so I think that’s the main difference was that an age thing or just
5:55 through you exploring more about yourself yeah hard to say can be an age
6:02 thing a little bit but at the same time you know I don’t believe in age I really
6:06 like it’s the same thing a lot of women say that you know once you are like in
6:09 your 40s or 30s you learn to love yourself I don’t think it’s a given
6:14 thing it’s about taking the steps you know oh totally we just grow up and learn to suppress it that’s the
6:20 difference yes oh no you definitely have to take the steps to actually and I like
6:25 to say it’s the journey to becoming your own best friend yeah I love that you actually get to like
6:30 who you are and and understand you know what lights you up and what brings you
6:36 down yeah I like I say sometimes you know becoming your own mother as well
6:41 and why mother’s love is unconditional it doesn’t matter what you’re doing your
6:46 mom wants the best for you at the same time
6:49 you know she made sure like love is there doesn’t matter what you’re doing
6:52 love is unconditional so I say become your own mother you know
6:55 oh I like that thank you I’ll have that yeah become your own best
7:00 friend like your mother yeah what is a number one tip for you to
7:06 make sure that your dreams come true ohh I love that question the truth is it is
7:11 about feeling joy I think this is what I’m really really trying to embody every
7:17 day in my life because if you’re feeling joy and you’ve
7:21 love what you’re doing your dreams will come true
7:23 this is the number one thing so it’s not coming from the desperate mode like I
7:28 want that I want that so bad it’s almost like I know it’s gonna come you know I’m already
7:33 enjoying what are some of thing you do to make sure you do feel joy but are some of the tips that you can
7:39 give our viewers to make sure that they joy their life does become more joyous I
7:44 think it’s really it comes down to really small things people always think
7:48 it needs to be something big grandiose you know but the truth is it’s really
7:52 about the small things like you know what makes your heart sing like do you
7:56 want to dance a little bit you want to go for a walk I love walking on the
8:00 beach so do I it’s the best place for me doesn’t matter what is my mood it changes
8:06 immediately yes for me it is about connecting more with that playfulness as
8:11 well like becoming a kid again I guess it’s important that younger version of
8:16 you who was like wild and free so yeah and I guess what what I love about the
8:22 beaches is standing there and looking at the horizon where you are you just feel
8:26 there’s endless possibilities absolutely yeah so obviously English is not your
8:35 first language obviously so I have to ask for this question I love to ask
8:41 people this what do you dream in umm in what language yes actually
8:49 it’s a very interesting question because I guess both to be honest you know my
8:54 partner sometimes say that I was sleep talking in Estonian most I’m thinking in
8:59 English because it’s my you know the environment where I live in but when I
9:03 think about my parents for example about my family back in Estonia it switches to
9:08 Estonian because that’s the language we use so I love that I love that must admit I’ve only got
9:14 English and let’s face it a lot of Englishmen don’t even would say
9:18 Australians don’t even speak English but I just love the fact that you you can
9:24 actually speak more than one language and do you feel that having a
9:31 different language helps you in seeing things differently
9:36 absolutely absolutely and you know I didn’t I learn English like when I
9:41 started I guess lessons when I was 10 years old
9:43 there’s even proven that you know if you have a bilingual child it’s just the
9:49 brain works very differently so but even now for me like definitely it’s also
9:53 even those cultural phrases are understanding people better language
9:58 changes your world absolutely and I think one of the things like when I was
10:02 living in Berlin I didn’t speak German actually so it definitely
10:06 restricted my worldview and overall experience so that’s why I love Sydney so much
10:12 as I can express myself and people understand oh yes we have to be able to
10:17 express ourselves don’t we we can’t actually stifle it it’s very important
10:21 so your ideal client is is women is there a do you have like an avatar as
10:28 they like to say that you actually love to work with you know the truth is
10:33 I’ve been working with all kinds of women you know I would love to think I’m
10:37 also coming from a marketing background and having an avatar but I
10:41 guess it’s one thing that is common amongst all these women’s that they are
10:45 ready it’s that willingness to change their life you know there’s no like yes
10:50 from marketing terms I could talk about the age and everything but it doesn’t
10:54 matter to be honest I worked with women who are
10:56 in their sixties women who were in the twenties so and one thing that’s common
11:00 they really want to change something they just might not know how you know
11:04 it’s like they know that there’s something so much bigger out there for
11:08 them and they no longer want to stay where they’re at yes that is perfect isn’t it and I’ve found
11:19 the same thing that it the women have to be ready
11:22 you can’t force anyone to change if they’re not ready to to take the steps
11:27 to take the action steps and this is something that sometimes I find
11:32 frustrating because I have this big passion to change everyone especially as i know
11:36 you don’t have to stay there come with me you know but it’s a lesson of understanding
11:41 honoring everyone’s journey that are you know I guess divine timing for things so
11:46 yeah which I understand so which so do you want to talk a little bit more about
11:52 your relationship it doesn’t have to be relationships with your boyfriend’s
11:55 having a long-distance relationship now with obviously your family and and
12:00 extended family how is that working for you ohhh it’s definitely working better than romantic long-distance
12:09 relationships that’s what I can say for sure it’s harder when you know my sister I have a
12:14 sister she has two beautiful boys so that’s making things harder you know
12:19 what my parents are not getting younger but I guess so what helps it’s just
12:23 really in connecting with them you know on a regular basis sending whatsapp
12:27 messages photos just trying to be there for them and always try to go home at
12:32 least once a year and stay there a bit longer like a month but I guess it’s
12:36 something that you know I guess a lot of expats
12:40 resonate with it there’s always some kind of longing in you because one part of
12:45 you is always missing yes yes you miss out on events and and you really want to
12:50 be in two places at once but you have to love the world we live in it is a lot
12:54 smaller and we’re a lot more connected with the way that we can actually have
12:58 you know face telephone calls like we’re doing now as opposed to just the old
13:03 phone home type thing certainly yes and so their last pillar which is all
13:10 about your world creation so it sounds like you’re setting up a business that
13:14 you could actually work anywhere in the world from so when you go home it’s not
13:19 as though you’ll you’re not working as well which is great and ideal so what do
13:24 you feel is a great tip in accumulating wealth for our viewers whoo I feel like I
13:31 haven’t accumulated wealth yet that’s the honest one so that’s good
13:36 one of the things what I feel and this is something that I’ve always done like
13:40 stay stay true to your values and one of the things like I’ve always known that
13:46 like having that classic nine-to-five job is not for me and I’ve really made
13:51 it like my priority to live this way and again like you know if you you want to
13:56 not everyone it should have their own business it’s not for everyone basically
14:00 understanding what is it that you truly want to do so how do you want to live
14:06 your life because the truth is sometimes we don’t like that but we all our
14:09 creators of our life you know the bad and the good so I guess for me even when I
14:15 was working for other companies I was working from home so that was very
14:19 important for me to have the flexibility it’s really about prioritizing and not
14:24 lowering your standards yes which is what I love now you trained to be a
14:28 journalist yes and chose not to work in that field long term yes making that
14:35 decision and realizing that it wasn’t your passion after doing all of that
14:38 studying and always thinking that you were going to do that how did you
14:43 come to the conclusion and actually take those steps yes it was definitely one of
14:49 the biggest turning points in my life because since I was 14 I knew like I’m
14:53 gonna be a journalist and like a news reporter you know I knew that’s about
14:57 being a news reporter and then I did my master studies and like the first year
15:02 my master studies I realized that my god like my passion is gone but actually now
15:07 I know that I never ever regretted studying journalism and it’s something
15:12 that I still feel very attracted to you’ll always use those skills anyway
15:16 absolutely I guess it’s more about like writing
15:19 more feature stories and like sharing people’s stories so that type of
15:24 journalism yeah it is beautiful yeah I can see you coming out with a
15:28 compilation book yes it is coming oh is it yes I am already working on it actually I started like just a week
15:37 ago and I have an accountability buddy now as well so yeah excellent can you
15:42 share the title or too early or is it still in working title it’s very much so
15:47 yeah still in progress but I think it’s more about sharing my story as well through
15:54 different cities where I lived yes the good the bad and the ugly of each city
16:04 have a lot of photos to go with it as well which is always great for the readers to have a look at them
16:08 actually dive into that area that’s what I find anyway so I believe you have a
16:14 gift for all of our viewers today do you want to share what that’s about
16:18 yes so it’s a little e book or a guide and it is about balance me that I’m
16:23 really passionate about why work-life balance is a myth and what to focus on
16:27 instead because I truly believe that you know we are all being sold on that idea
16:31 that balance is achievable and we try really hard right so and I think there’s
16:37 something so much more valuable that we should focus on so I feel also the women
16:42 that I work with like feeling really guilty on putting themselves first and
16:46 taking time for themselves and then also feeling guilty that you know now when
16:50 I’m working I’m not you know being with my family the other way around so this
16:57 is a little guide that really challenges your mindset a little bit about balance
17:01 what is achievable and what you focus on instead and also share some practical
17:05 tips they’re an exercise thank you and that could seem so well with the live
17:09 life by design and where you actually by embracing all areas of your life you
17:15 actually end up with your joyous life and you are actually achieving balance
17:20 from a different perspective as you’re touching all of the areas you know she
17:23 said you’re bringing what you’re actually making sure that joy comes into
17:28 your life absolutely doing what you like and it
17:31 face it so many times we spend so much time at work accumulating all of this
17:36 money to buy all of these things that they’re not really making us happy are they
17:40 yeah and so what do you feel makes you happy ooh happy happy is the state of mind
17:46 it’s one of the things to feel happy stop chasing happiness that’s what I
17:50 would say I agree it’s a choice you can wake up and be happy absolutely is there anything else you like to add I was just really saying that like
18:08 really stop you know one of the things that today someone asked me actually
18:11 that you know I’m already doing this all this work on myself and I’m still not
18:15 there and I don’t have that relationship that I want and I was saying that the
18:19 number one thing is before you have this what you really want to have start
18:24 feeling good about your life already doesn’t matter if it’s money in its
18:27 business it’s a relationship you need to find that joy right now and at times can
18:32 be challenging but there’s no other way really
18:35 I totally love that and I think that is a great way to end our conversation
18:40 Thank You Ly for coming on live love by design TV and all of your details are
18:47 below this video the people to reach out because I am sure that you really can
18:52 help everyone to bring the joy and the happiness into their life thank you so
18:57 much thank you bye
18:59 well that is another episode of live love by design TV didn’t you just love Ly I think she’s an amazing lady and I know that she’s going to go
19:10 far in helping people to actually learn to live and love their life which is
19:16 exactly what live love by design is all about what I loved most about her was
19:22 when she actually said that when she went home to Estonia after traveling the
19:28 world she looked around and she realized that it wasn’t as bad as what she had
19:33 thought it had been previously isn’t that true about life we sort of
19:39 put our own perceptions our own awareness onto what is happening
19:44 in our world is it actually reality probably not because when we broaden our
19:50 perspective and we gain more wisdom and we actually learn more about ourself
19:55 ourselves we tend to find out that maybe what we were thinking originally wasn’t
20:02 exactly how it is something to think about isn’t it something for you to look
20:07 around at your life and actually say is this as bad as what I think it is where
20:12 is the joy where is the fun how can I easily tweak this so that I can bring
20:18 into my life everything that I’ve been looking for well thank you for being
20:23 here and I look forward to seeing you on another episode of live love by design
20:30 TV real soon bye for now