Kathy Wong ~ Moeloco

0:14 Hello and welcome to another episode of Live Love By Design TV, this afternoon I am with
0:21 the amazing friend of mine, Kathy Wong and we’re sitting at this great setting as you
0:28 can see.
0:29 Not sure what the light is going to do though you know what we are going to keep talking
0:32 and we’re going to keep filming and whatever happens, happens.
0:34 Happens Yes.
0:36 So welcome Kathy.
0:37 Hi Karen great to be here
0:38 So great to see you.
0:40 Let me just get some hair out of your eye.So Kathy is perfect for Live Love By Design,
0:46 she has lived the whole four pillars.
0:48 All About You.
0:50 All About Your Relationships.
0:51 All About Your Expertise and All About Your Wealth-Creation. And she has just come back
0:56 from travelling the world for eight months.
0:59 Are about seven months.
1:00 Which is fantastic, though more importantly I want to talk to Kathy, we are going to start
1:06 with All About You.
1:07 What have you found out in those travels?
1:11 Oh my God.
1:12 HaHa.
1:13 There is so much Karen, about your beautiful self.
1:15 Well yes it has been such a journey, meeting so many incredible people all around the world,
1:20 as I explored social enterprise but what I did not realise was how much of a journey
1:26 it was about me.
1:28 And how I discovered that I needed to really look at my own self-love.
1:33 And that was something that I was aware of you know, but ah, it was like I did a masters
1:40 degree on self-love while I was away.
1:43 Ok so you are in your 50’s.
1:45 Now when do you feel people should understand self-love.
1:50 After living the life that you have lived and really figuring it out in your late 50’s
1:55 or mid 50’s, when do you feel people should actually get that little all about you tick
2:03 in their life?
2:04 I wished that I could have got it while I was younger, yep.
2:08 But at the same time I do kind of question is that possible, how would that work because
2:15 there is a certain amount of living that you need to do to be able to get it well.
2:20 Though you know I would have loved to have had it in my 30’s, actually.
2:23 Yes I always say in your 20’s but why not in your 30’s.
2:25 I agree but I do agree with you too that you do need to go through the “ego” phase of your
2:34 life and you do need to come to a time where you want to quieten it a little bit though
2:39 to have self love in your 20’s and 30’s and I sort of look at it as putting your health
2:45 first.
2:46 Making that a priority.
2:47 Yes.
2:48 Something I really wished that I had done when I was a lot younger.
2:51 And also understanding that to help others to serve others you can’t do it from an empty well
2:58 No and that has been one of my biggest lessons.
3:01 Particularly running a social enterprise which is all about helping others and being caught
3:07 up on this treadmill of I have to help the others, I have to help the others and I just
3:11 let go of my self totally and then you know was going facing burnout, facing health issues.
3:19 Yes.
3:20 And it’s like I can not give to anybody if I don’t have myself looked after first
3:25 You know the old is it the aeroplane you know gas masks scenario.
3:28 Yes you have to breathe first.
3:32 Exactly.
3:33 So that was a huge huge lesson.
3:35 And then you know realising that in my line of work I am constantly asked, how do you
3:42 make a difference?
3:43 We can all make a difference by first of all taking care of ourself.
3:48 Yes.
3:49 Yes.
3:50 And that was huge huge epiphany for me and it was interesting while I was doing all this
3:55 travelling, you know, I would had pictured myself reading, meditating and doing all these
4:02 sort of things and I did not.
4:04 Cause I was just being in the moment and being completely present to everything that was
4:11 going on around me.
4:13 And that was that sort of moments that I had these revelations about my self.
4:19 Ok, so being in the moment is a perfect way for us to go into the next pillar which is
4:25 All About Your Relationships. because I am pretty sure, with you being in
4:30 the moment, not only for yourself, but when you were connecting and meeting new people,
4:37 you would have had a completely different experience than if you had been the way that
4:44 you may have been previously.
4:45 Yeah, I think that I would agree with that its about being more open because you are
4:49 completely exposed, I suppose is the best word I would use.You know, because you are
4:59 vulnerable and that is one of the, you know, very important what would you call it, a byproduct,
5:08 or is the word the will come to me, it just flows on.
5:12 Yes flows on from that whole self love.
5:13 So I think that other people can feel that and they are attracted to that as well.
5:20 Yes the energy.
5:21 So your energy is completely different.
5:22 So how many great experiences did you have just from meeting people, say at just a random
5:25 table next to you.
5:26 Oh my god there were so many.
5:28 You know anything from, you know, as you said, sitting at a table in Croatia and then being
5:35 invited by this couple to go on their boat, this beautiful boat around the Croatian riviera
5:42 to private parties.
5:43 OMG, to the fjords, you know, yeah there were so many.
5:49 I can not begin to tell you.
5:52 So you have travelled a lot in your time on this earth, have you ever done that with anyone else?
5:58 Have you ever been to another place, in your previous travels, where you would have experienced
6:02 something like that?
6:04 I’ve had, look I’ve had other things though not to this degree or level of experience
6:10 that I’ve had.
6:11 And not as many.
6:12 You know I was travelling for a long time, so that obviously increases your opportunities
6:17 but there was just so much.
6:18 So many of these rich experiences.
6:20 So many connections.
6:22 Yes so many and that is what Life’s about isn’t it?
6:25 It’s about our connections our experiences.
6:26 And that is at the end of the day, travel is beautiful to see you know, scenery, things
6:31 that you have not scene, though what makes it is the people.Yes.
6:35 Because you know, now that I have travelled to so many countries, and realised that many
6:40 of them are quite similar.
6:42 the world is now getting more and more the same.
6:46 It is the people.
6:47 Yes.It really is the people.
6:48 Yes.
6:49 And what I’ve noticed is that we all dress very similar no matter where you go whereas
6:52 years ago 20-30 years ago everyone did dress differently.
6:56 That is right.
6:57 Now you can not tell where people come from either because of all the merging of nationalities
7:02 as well, so it’s a huge melting pot. it’s really beautiful.
7:07 and though but you can tell once you start talking to people and you hear, the different
7:13 sometime you might hear different accents but more importantly their different cultural
7:17 backgrounds and what, how that has been a big part of how they tick.
7:22 Yes.
7:23 Which is Great.
7:24 So moving onto our 3rd pillar ~ All About Your Expertise.
7:29 Now you have been very successful throughout your career which is fantastic.
7:34 you have built businesses, sold businesses and we can role the 2 pillars in together
7:40 the 3rd & the 4th ~ which is All About Your Wealth-Creation.
7:44 Now you have accumulated and become financially independent through your hard work for 30 years
7:53 Well yep, yep.
7:54 Right you have been out there and you have really been doing great.
7:58 Which is fantastic but now you are at the stage where you are actually assisting others
8:03 to, you’re imparting your wisdom.
8:06 Yes.
8:07 And that is where it all roles in together.
8:08 And it is also about giving back and connecting.
8:11 So share with us, how you actually do that.
8:15 Because you have so much wisdom and so much experience to assist people.
8:20 Well, thanks Karen for saying that.
8:22 Well we are all learning, you know I have had the benefit of so many people teaching
8:26 me and passing on their knowledge.
8:28 So it’s just even in just conversations I mean that is where it starts, right.
8:33 You know it’s amazing, you can have a conversation with all these strangers I kept meeting and
8:38 how they would, it would trigger something within them and it would inspire them to go and take
8:43 some action or go look into something.
8:45 So who knows where that goes.
8:48 but that is usually how you plant a bit of a seed.
8:52 Right.
8:53 Aha.
8:54 And I realised that I have built up all of this experience and people are keen to learn
9:01 and you know hear those insights and you should do that from everybody you meet.
9:05 As everybody has something that they can share and impart.
9:08 I totally agree.
9:09 though it also is the other way where I am sure that you have learnt from them as well?
9:13 Oh definitely it is a two-way street.
9:15 And that is what people need to understand from mentors, is that if you both should learn
9:20 from each other.
9:21 You both should be grown from the experience of being connected.
9:26 That is right, the mentee, just as much, sorry the mentor can learn just as much from the
9:33 mentee.
9:34 There goes my dog. this is a great interview.
9:37 We have the sun setting, we have the dog making a lot of noise.
9:41 But that is ok, cause that is what life’s is about It is what life is about.
9:45 And it’s about, you know, he is part of the family and he is allowed to make his noise.
9:48 But, Kathy I would really love from you to let our viewers know, knowing what you know
9:55 now, what do you feel people in this world, need to sort of take notice of?
10:04 Hmmm, well we started covering it when we talked about the self-love, you know I really
10:08 have a very simple philosophy on life, that if, everyone took care of themselves, loved
10:15 themselves enough, that would radically change the world.
10:18 We would not have wars.
10:19 We would not have all these nasty things that we have.
10:20 Because if you are content within yourself, YES.
10:21 Because that really has an amazing ripple effect.
10:22 And that energy that gets sent out into the world.
10:23 You know we have so many people who are unhappy, they are not well.
10:27 All these sort of things going on and that is why we have the world that we have at the
10:43 moment.
10:44 So I have really realised how that is the bases of everything.
10:52 Yes and I totally agree.
10:54 Going inside and looking.
10:55 Yes everything starts from within.
10:56 And as you said when you’re happy, you’re fulfilled and I think you realise you don’t
11:02 need as much as what we all think we do.
11:04 Oh we don’t.
11:05 We are all accumulating all this stuff.
11:07 For what reason?
11:08 To be the richest person in the graveyard?
11:10 I just you know, and I am not knocking it, we have all been down that road of actually
11:16 feeling that is what success means but more importantly it is the ripple effect.
11:21 It is an incredible ripple effect.
11:23 Can I just add, sorry to talk over you for a moment Karen, yes.
11:25 when you were talking about how little we need, that was the other part of my lesson.
11:32 I was travelling around with a suitcase, you know ah, with my clothes and other belongings
11:37 and it was so liberating.
11:39 Not having all this stuff to weigh me down.
11:42 Yes.
11:43 And you know, just being, free as a bird to just go from where ever I wanted to go.
11:49 Talk to who ever I wanted to talk to.
11:50 That was incredible experience that ah.
11:52 You know it does not mean you have to travel to have that experience.
11:55 You can still have it in your own backyard.
11:57 Yes exactly and it’s true we have so many clothes we never wear.
12:01 You know we have it for one occasion we might wear it ever 2 years or something like that
12:05 but its so true.
12:07 And does it really matter if you wear the same clothes over a week.
12:11 Not the same you know what I mean.
12:12 if you have a choice for 2 or 3 clothes over a week as opposed to 7.
12:18 yes exactly and that was another beautiful thing, learning that I can do with so much
12:24 less than what I have.
12:27 So I am purging.
12:29 I have got back and I’m purging and I’ll probably be doing a lot more still.
12:34 Which is great as i know that you will give it to the people who actually require it.
12:39 So is there any parting wisdom that you would love to give to our viewers?
12:44 Because I just love talking to you I feel that you are one of my greatest friends, Thank
12:48 you and Likewise and I’ve missed you. And I’ve missed you too.
12:53 Look I think as we said that in summary there is the part of the self-love but also I would
13:00 say that you know just be open to opportunities to people.
13:04 Yes.
13:05 You know we live in a world that is so untrusting these days.
13:09 People creating these little force fields around themself pushing people out.
13:15 But you know, if we all just put ourselves out there and open, honestly amazing possibilities
13:22 do open up in your life.
13:24 That is what I’ve always found. And the other part of it is for me you know I’ve always
13:30 been this control freak.
13:31 I’ve always needed to plan out know exactly where I was going.
13:34 I have not known where I was going over the last seven months, in fact I have probably
13:39 know, it sounds ironic, but I probably know where I am going without knowing where I am going.
13:46 If that makes sense.
13:47 That totally makes sense.
13:48 You know.
13:49 Because you are very connected to your inner self, now, and that is all the wisdom that
13:52 we require.
13:53 We know within us everything that we should be doing.
13:57 So trusting that is what the world should actually come to.
14:02 that is right, it boils down to that trust and the belief with in yourself because you
14:07 know everything does get looked after as long as you can really get that, instead of pushing
14:14 and pushing and trying to control everything that you think you need or want.
14:19 That just delays everything.
14:21 Yeah exactly.
14:22 Well thank you for coming here, Oh Thanks Karen, to Live Love By Design., I’ve had the dog
14:26 making a lot of noise, I’ve got the sun setting, here he goes.
14:30 Look at this beautiful background.
14:32 It is a beautiful background.
14:34 So thank you and I look forward to chatting with you again and seeing what the next 6
14:40 months/ year has install for the a women of the universe, a woman of the world, she is
14:46 the citizen of the world now.
14:49 And Keep travelling and keep opening everyone else up to possibilities.
14:52 Thanks Karen I intend to, don’t worry.
14:55 Bye Everyone